...THEY...

They told me I would never grow tall...(fine they were right),
They told you that you would never shine...You're a star.
They told you that you would never have great things, your darling little heart worked so hard, and you got ten thousand on ten thousand great things.
They say that everyone says you're like your father, mother, sister, brother, aunts, uncles and your whole clan...You're nothing like that. You are your own person with a family to belong to BUT you are unique (You-nique)
They said sadness would be your daily companion, your only friend...you have the loudest laugh, the kind that's contagious, the kind that brings tears to your eyes.
Who are THEY? This group of elusive people who think they know so much about you? They are inexistent! They will only take the reins if you let them. Until we can find these "they" people, we are not going to pay attention to negative remarks, we are going to be the people we were created to be. People who are ready to run the world! (Thank you Bey for that!)

For my SOULIE

There's a darkness that lurks around when the first morning light appears...trying to ignore it, you put a red ribbon in your hair with a yellow cardigan and pink scarf to just force the day into mellow-day. Happy songs not so happy but you still put up a good fight. When you're about to have the last punch...when you're about to step on the darkness, when you've just let out a little laugh...IT turns around and puts you down. IT kills the little joy you had...and even when you try to sing "this little light of mine, am gonna let it shine...let it shine, let it shine, let....." *voice fades and the light's out* 


Today has been a dark day for one of my most favourite people in the whole world, and it breaks my heart, my whole being inside is dead because her heart is open and it's bleeding...there's nothing I can do to make it all stop...I pray more than a thousand prayers that God's strength will be enough because we are all fragile but they are more fragile in this moment. 
We sleep and hope for better days, for days when you shall smile upon them, when you appear through rainbows, when you put your arms around them and whisper..."it is well", we pray for that peace that transcends all understanding, the kind that will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. 

LIVING FULLY IN TODAY.

Good morning BEAUTIFUL people!!!!!!!
I am back and I am all yours from now on...Exams are done and dusted for most of us and we can only pray and hope for the best results. :-) I hope everyone reading this is fine in all senses of the word 'fine'.

Seize the day


I woke up tempted to just slack the day away, remain in my bed, turn and toss in my bed because I can BUT something within me could not let me. I found myself awake at 8 am and I was so dissatisfied, I am done with exams, I deserve to sleep and wake up at 6pm and sleep some more because the past few days have been characterised with insomnia and dreams filled with law articles. If sleeping beauty's sleep was justified, then so is mine!(my sleep wasn't as shallow as hers anyway!)

Regardless of psychotic discussion with self, I woke up and decided to do something with my day. To go out of my bedroom and to flourish in the most fabulous way I know. I urge you to live life to the fullest and get the most out of every individual day of the week. I know there's so much literature on that topic and sometimes we get cynical, questioning its worthiness. The only way to prove its worth is by trying it out! You will go to bed a much happier person.

Few things we can all do.


1. Smile at anyone...people will think you're beautiful even when you feel like a dirty duck.
2. Do something totally selfless...it can be anything e.g. talk to a street person
3. LEAVE YOUR BED
4. Say 'thank you' to someone close to you
5. COMB YOUR HAIR (sometimes that's all you need to do)

I am going to seize today, I am up and ready to take on the day with my awesomeness in Christ Jesus. The sun won't shine brighter than you and I today.
xxx

ONE MINUTE READ.

These past few days have been very busy ones with everyone preparing for exams...I have abandoned you and I have "stolen" 30 minutes to get something out there... Hmm...well I cannot say for sure that I have something interesting to write about, there's only much one can write in less than 30 minutes.


Many of us have been faced with trying times, my friend and I call that "falling on the evil days"and it's is quite challenging trying to prioritise what "issue" (I refrain from using the word "problem" because that's pulled out when dire times come knocking) to sort out first. There's the mother of all issues EXAMS, then the side but yet major issues of life, and am not talking about what outfit to put on the next morning, I am talking about real life issues that are outside just academics (tsunamis inclusive but the list is inexhaustible)   and the ones that fall in the "Dear Lord, why me?" category issues. 


I will be back to finish up in my next post...but for those who are feeling the strain...for now let's all try this simple "mantra"...'something good is going to happen to me (you) today', try saying that everyday and even when an "issue" arises, you will be looking forward to that good thing...I promise you, there is something good that's meant to happen to you EVERYDAY. We just let our issues literally cover our daily promise. So...'Yes' to the "mantra"? 


ps. "Live amazed, keep amazed, we get so used to things and then we forget to stay amazed." Keep amazed...You'll be very surprised at how good things come your way.

HAPPY TO BE ME

I was listening to Joyce Meyer and she said something I thought I'd share...There's no reason for us to hate our body parts...no reason at all. David understood his secret beauty and he was not ashamed to flaunt it...He wrote "I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made...when I was made in secret and SKILLFULLY wrought in the lowest parts of the earth..." I do not mean to go all pastor on you (although I day dream about becoming a missionary) we like who we are because Christ is in us, so when someone says 'you're beautiful'...allow the compliment because you're not paying them to say it. We will never leave up to the world's standard of beauty...seriously...It will take me more than brazilian hair to look like Jessica Alba and co.   be happy to be you, with all your strangeness...be happy to be you...:-)

LOVE + HEARTBREAKS = MORE LOVE?

How do I feel about HEARTBREAKS and LOVE??? I could write ten thousand books on this topic alone but due to the high priority I give to my law essays, I will try and write just a little.
I will write from a girl's perspective (these views are not universal).
Most great women we love and admire have a love story gone wrong and these great women are all the women in the world.


I think a heartbreak is a blessing in disguise. It gives you time to reinvent yourself and to fully understand your own mystery. Grieving time is there for a reason. It enables you to think about all the death threats you can issue, all the songs you can possibly write (bless Adele) and a grace period to look horrendous. Most people in our age group would rather die than profess their undying love/strong-like (call it whatever you want to call it) for each other. Is it shameful to love?Why is love associated with weakness?Is it because we are dying to be loved by a "special" person and because we are afraid of rejection we act all nonchalant and hardcore? There is no shame or regret in love and I think to love and to be loved in return is one of the nicest feelings ever and everyone should at least experience it in their life time. 
Of course with beautiful things comes grave risks.Yes, loving might be a mistake but it's worth making. Am not saying we should love stupidly like those Romeo and Juliet people but love sensibly like what is written in 1st Corinthians 13 . (My favourite Bible verse). 

"Love is patient; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up; and its faith, hope and patience never fail. Love is eternal. 


I am aware that love defies logic sometimes and we might go out of our way to do the most shameful things but I do not see anywhere in that chapter "love is death". WARNING *Do NOT follow the steps of these people Romeo and Juliet, Cleopatra and Mark Antony, Paolo and Francesca. They all died because of love.*
How does one deal with a love gone wrong? I do not know but the answer is not in a sword, poison or bad hair. No one writes a manual for brokenhearted people. I am not going to be of much use either but I have my "powerful" pep talk that gets me through harsh situations that make my heart crumble. 


My personal pep talk, 'As women, we feel everything to the core of our hearts. We are like vampires with heightened emotions except we do not have the "switch off" option. So feel bitter if you want, feel disappointed, be dramatic about it all...BUT do not lose 'you' in the process and allow to heal. There's more pain awaiting us on the other side at the age of 26 to 50 and it's called child birth and from the videos I have watched, that's got to be the most painful self inflicted experience ever! So a heartbreak is just a heartbreak, it might hurt for a while but it is bearable and time heals everything.' 


I understand that love and heartbreaks are designed differently for every individual, and coping methods differ but as my mother says, "there's no need to try so hard like your life depended on the other person's existence. Fall in love with yourself before you fall in love with someone else and when things go haywire, the love you have for yourself will be enough to get you moving"...she always ends with "If it's meant to be it's meant to be".


Love hurts and that's why people are so reluctant to get into it, digging invisible holes to hide their feelings as they approach and if you want to live like that, that's perfectly alright. You'll never fully experience loss or hurt because you've guarded your nonexistent "diamond mines" and maybe that's a good thing. Right? I say when you feel the love for someone let yourself feel, if the other person feels the same even better...it really shouldn't matter who says what, when and where because it is a personal experience. And when it hurts, and hurts real bad just remember that in the end you loved and open your heart for more possibilities of love and heartbreak.

...happiness wherever you go...

We owe it to God to be happy and we have to stop investing in other people to make us happy. They were not born to solely make you happy, even Britney knows that it's a lie (I was born to make you happy!). I think it's okay to be selfish with yourself. Why try to please someone over and over again like an "apple" commercial? I am a firm believer in trying to make things work such as friendships, electronics, machinery,marriage. e.t.c. I am a sucker for all sorts of "happy endings" but even I respect the rule "one must give up when their true happiness is compromised."  


People are just people and yes we shall disappoint each other. Sometimes it comes from a good place, sometimes it doesn't BUT it is okay to LET GO when you have had enough...It is okay to not be okay with a situation. Do not let some "empty" heart leave you bitter or feeling like you are not worth loving.
We make things so complicated by creating formulae, making all sorts of excuses yet it really is that simple. We don't have to please anyone if it's going to suffocate us and flat-line our joy and happiness.
You are awesome, and it's okay if no one acknowledges that because GOD does. 
Breathe a little and Lose yourself in happiness...

"Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go." Oscar Wilde